Learning new things is hard. Especially a new skill. It takes a lot of practice. Hard work. Perseverance. All that good stuff.
I've found that core parts of our personality emerge when we are learning something new. I think it's the challenge of it. We feel vulnerable. We like being good at things, and when we think that we aren't, we can get defensive. Or stubborn. Or we just quit.
It can also be difficult to watch someone struggle through learning a new skill. Especially if we have mastered the skill. It's hard to sit there and watch someone struggle. If we do swoop in to try and help, we can sometimes trigger the other person's personality traits. We push them toward becoming defensive. We speed up the appearance of the stubborn streak. Or worst of all - we might be partially responsible if they give up and quit because we couldn't let them struggle.
This week, I have witnessed the stubborn streak:
Learning to feed yourself is hard.
And he enjoys it so much.
But it takes FOREVER.
And it makes a mess.
(You should see the shirt he wore today. I don't even know where to begin with spot removal.)
The stubborn streak has escalated over the last few days. When I first tried to help him with the spoon, he let me. Then, he turned his face away from me until I handed him the spoon. Now, he pulls the spoon away from me and pushes my hand away because he wants to do it himself.
Honestly, I'm glad he's stubborn. I'm glad he doesn't seem to be the kind of kid that will give up and quit. And as I move along on my parental learning curve, I need to remember that about him.
P.S. The Biggest Loser makeovers were excellent. Except for Vicky's. Why so pale? Is it the hair? The makeup? The hair and makeup? The lighting? I'm inclined to think the makeup is part of the problem since her face and neck were different colors. And I am EXTREMELY glad America gets to vote between #3 and #4 next week to determine the last person in the top 3. Go, Michelle!